My Friends Are Out Partying and Drinking

"SVTyler" (svtyler)
10/04/2014 at 00:42 • Filed to: None

And I'm just sitting here watching Group B videos like BRAAAAPbrapbrapbrapBRAAAAPbrapBRAAAAAAAAAAPb-BRAAAAP

DISCUSSION (18)

Kanaric > SVTyler
10/04/2014 at 00:43

lol that crazy one where spectators are asking to die.

SVTyler > Kanaric
10/04/2014 at 00:45

Is any Group B video considered not crazy?

Milky > SVTyler
10/04/2014 at 01:17

But bro bro ….. go out and get some booze.

SVTyler > Milky
10/04/2014 at 01:28

Lol that's what 90% of what my texts look like on the weekend:

BRO YOU AREN'T GONNA GET LAID AT HOME BRO JUST COME TO THIS SKETCHY DUDE'S DILAPIDATED HOUSE AND DRINK LIKE 20 WARM NATTY LIGHTS AND WATERED-DOWN SHOTS BRO YOU COULD TOTALLY SLAM SOME SORORITY TAIL BRO IT'S FUN BRO THOSE TWO HOURS WILL BE TOTALLY WORTH FEELING LIKE SHIT FOR THE REST OF THE WEEKEND BRO

I don't drink so I'd either be the awkward sober guy in the corner standing around not talking to anybody or the DD. Probably both...

wabbalosthiskey > SVTyler
10/04/2014 at 01:34

So I'm probably twice your age and was in the same shoes at that point, and looking back I have to say, they are probably right... LOL - Don't forget to live it up a little :P

SVTyler > wabbalosthiskey
10/04/2014 at 01:45

Man, I know I should. Not to vent or anything but I'm just one of those people who's super-uncomfortable and introverted in social situations; I'm trying to work on it at least, it's just really difficult to act like the complete opposite of yourself lol.

wabbalosthiskey > SVTyler
10/04/2014 at 02:16

I've always been the same way, save when I'm in my own element or find a reason to make myself be forward for whatever reason. But you don't have to act like the opposite of yourself. I never drank alcohol until after I was 21, I just wasn't particularly inclined to and had no interest in partying in any way, found it awkward to be in those situations. Outside my box. But as my friends caught up in age and would have a few beers here and there, I found that as an introvert it would help to sort of suppress that natural instinct to hold back in conversation or otherwise. As I got older I started to figure this out, that being outside the box was what was uncomfortable, and for me that is a hard thing to get around even when understanding it. But if you can have a beer and relax, let your guard down a little, it can let yourself come out on it's own when you'd normally fight to keep it in. Now once in a while I look back on my buddies out having a good time and feel like while I thought I was better or above it at the time, I maybe just didn't get it and probably missed out in some ways. I'm not encouraging the 16 year olds to go out and get wasted every weekend, just suggesting that if you have trouble being out there in social situations, you're only young once so relax and take a little of it in. Have a beer and get out of your box, and even if you aren't at the club every friday night, you'll get it and know who you are. You might just find more to yourself than you knew you had.

Now when you find yourself missing your pants, being escorted out by security in Las Vegas and the homeless wheelchair guy is giving you a high five asking for an encore, it's time to get back in your box. But that's a whole other experience in character building.

SVTyler > wabbalosthiskey
10/04/2014 at 03:10

Thank you for such a thoughtful response. Not to write my own wall of text but please understand my wariness of alcohol comes from very family members with severe drinking problems, not so much the actual social aspect of the atmosphere in which people drink. I mean, I'd love to go to the bars and drink a few beers and hang out but that's never an option; me and my friends are all engineers, so between homework and projects and exams the only thing we have time for is the quick two-hour binge drinking sessions at their fraternities. Not that that's any excuse and I'm not blaming my reclusiveness solely on that fact, but it does play a part.

Your advice does still stand, though. I'm a lot more outgoing and social than I was in high school and it's still something I'm working on. Alcohol would definitely help as a social lubricant like you mentioned, it would just have to be in the right situation. We've gone tailgating and had cookouts and stuff before and I have no problem with those kinds of things, but those are becoming more and more rare the farther along we get and the more difficult classes become.

Again, thank you for the advice and your perspective. College is a weird place and I'll take all the help I can get.

D > SVTyler
10/04/2014 at 04:25

do you ever smoke a little pot?

SVTyler > D
10/04/2014 at 04:43

Actually no, though my friends make fun of me all the time because I look and act like a stoner (long hair, laid back, like stoner music) even though I'm not. Would it be something you recommend?

D > SVTyler
10/04/2014 at 04:57

Well, I absolutely don't want to be the guy to advocate for any kind of drug use buuut it sounds like you're open to the idea of a 'social lubricant' and have very good reasons to avoid alcohol. Weed is your man, if this is the case. I'm in college too—I seldom smoke, but the occasional hit from the pipe has definitely made a few nights more enjoyable/smooth.

SVTyler > D
10/04/2014 at 05:39

I'll definitely keep an open mind. I had a few opportunities in high school to smoke with the waitresses at our pizza place and kind of regretted passing them up, to be honest. I just didn't want to get high for the first time with (to put it kindly people) of questionable character, always heard you want to smoke around people you trust.

Conan > SVTyler
10/04/2014 at 09:31

I should've done more of that in college.

SVTyler > Conan
10/05/2014 at 00:29

Eh, I think it's overrated, especially after hearing other people's stories. It's never like "oh man, I'm glad I went to that party, it was awesome!" It's always, "yeah, then I spent an hour looking for my other shoe and puked in the bushes after falling down a flight of stairs."

Conan > SVTyler
10/05/2014 at 00:30

Right! I meant I should've watched a lot more group B videos.

SVTyler > Conan
10/05/2014 at 00:33

I think that's something everyone should do.

Bobby12 > SVTyler
10/08/2014 at 16:30

Yep, been there done that. I was in Purdue '08-'10 and yes my Friday evenings were spent watching rally footage. (both Grp.A and Grp.B). Not a bad thing, besides parties suck, IMHO.

SVTyler > Bobby12
10/08/2014 at 16:39

I don't really get them, either. It'd be one thing to go hang out with friends and have a few beers but my fratbro/sorority friends seem to only spend Thursdays getting absolutely hammered. Parties just make me super uncomfortable anyways, too many people.